it’s been a minute.
So, yesterday was fathers’ day. And i stood up to be counted.
Having said that…
There were also acknowledgements for single moms who ostensibly double up as dads.
Really? Seriously? I am tempted to say Hogwash! Too late, said it already.
I acknowledge that a single mother’s job is a really tough one. Very. However it will NEVER double up or take the place of a father. EVER!
I am, after all, a product of a single-parent upbringing. My mum worked really hard and she made mistakes and, yet, she couldn’t take the place my father ought to have filled.
The only qualification for a father is he has to be a man. Period.
For sons, a father‘s job is to CALL OUT the man in him. Only a man can call out a man. Go figure.
For daughters, his role is to AFFIRM them. Consistently.
Both scenarios require a man’s presence and authenticity.
I honestly pray that we don’t ever get to see similar acknowledgements for single fathers on Mother’s Day. Shudder.
I think the postings were a feel good PR exercise to cover up what was really unresolved and unacknowledged misandry.